Can you take a compliment? I sure as hell can't. For some reason, when somebody says something nice about me, rather than saying: thank you or even I know, (appropriate when someone tells you your makeup looks fierce and you know that because you spent hours on it), I squirm, go bright red and quickly bat the compliment back: No, YOU look great, I say. Or worse: No, I look gross, you're just being nice. What a shitty state of affairs.
Well. One woman has had enough and took to Twitter this week to encourage us to agree with a compliment. But not the ones that you get from your mates when they tell you that your jeans are fab-ul-ous, no. To acknowledge AND accept a compliment given to you by a man. Feminista Jones clearly knew that this was going to evoke trouble (because women should have absolutely no self confidence right?) and put out the following tweet:
She told BuzzFeed News that: "It's not a new idea, but in my own experience when [a man] complimented me and I say, 'I agree,' they get upset," Jones said. "It’s the idea that they bestow the compliment on you, and you’re not supposed to be aware of it." Anyhoo. She asked people to accept compliments and guys, the result was SHOCKINGLY SHIT.
And my personal fave...
This whole thing was met with SUCH a massive response of women all asking the same thing: WHY IS NOT OKAY THAT WE LOVE OURSELVES? Jones asked: "Why are people so bothered by someone having self-confidence and self-love?" and pointed out that "we have a culture that says it’s 'rude' — we obligate people to be appreciative of a compliment."
This girl is SO spot on and I am SO pleased that this whole thing has come up. But good God. What a shit show. I can't BELIEVE that loving ourselves is still such a shocking and terrible notion to so many. Obviously, it's not all men that do this, but if we're honest, we can't deny that this is a huge problem.
I'll leave ya with this. A great tweet that basically summed up everything I felt about it.
Oh, and the next time someone compliments you? Take it. Grab it with both hands and run with the damn thing.