If I were to ask you to close your eyes now, and picture a beautiful woman, no doubt an image of Kiera Knightley or Cheryl Cole would pop into your head, either that or a model, perhaps one who’s name you don’t know and who’s face you can’t quite picture, but who is tanned, and well made up, and perfect in every single way.
Because that’s what we’ve been told, that is what we have been shown. That is something that we are fed every day. This idea that beauty is actually something seemingly unobtainable, something that we must thrive for, relentlessly, but something that ultimately, we will never match up to.
In society today, our understanding is that beauty equals perfection, of some kind or another.
But when you are actually walking down the street, in the real world, seeing real people, you will see beauty. Everywhere you look, there will be beauty, beautiful people who all look entirely different.
As I write this, I am on a bus and there are six other women on the downstairs level around me, each totally beautiful in their own way.
The girl to my right has the most amazing hair you have ever seen, it is auburn and flows to her waist in the most beautiful waves.
The woman in front of me looks like her makeup was done at the hands of a pro, she looks incredible and immaculate.
The girl standing up with a buggy is wearing no makeup but looks so naturally beautiful with her hair pulled back in a pair of jeans and a t-shirt.
The lady opposite me has the biggest, bluest eyes that you have ever seen.
And the lady that got on behind me gave me the biggest, warmest, kindest smile when she caught my eye and in that split second she was the most beautiful woman in the world.
All of these women are beautiful, in their own ways. They each have their own shit going on, they have their own busy, imperfect lives. Each of these women is dealing with an insecurity, yet I see beauty in each and every one of them.
Just like they will see beauty in you.
Because as an individual, you are. No, when you compare yourself to your perceived idea of perfection, one that you are constantly seeing in the media, you would not consider yourself to be beautiful.
But that’s not right, because that’s not real.
The reality is, beauty is all around us, we just need to open our eyes and try to embrace it. Start by looking for beauty in others and in turn, I hope that you’ll start to recognise the beauty within you. And I appreciate that I sound RIDICULOUSLY cheesy right now, but I don’t even care.
Wherever you are right now, look up, look around, look out the window and take a good hard look at the women around you and find the beauty in them, in whatever form it comes. Then walk yourself off to the bathroom, look in the mirror and do the same thing to yourself. There is beauty is there, you just need to find it, acknowledge it and then embrace it.
We have GOT to stop comparing ourselves to this perceived idea of beauty and instead remember and fall in love with our individuality. We are all individuals, and in our own little way, we’re totally and utterly beautiful too.