How often do you go to bed in a good mood? For me, I don’t think it happens enough. I normally find something to complain about (right now I’m banging on about how much I hate my bed, but I have a new one coming tomorrow so that’ll be a void complaint soon!), I will moan that the bed is either too hot or too cold, I’ll have a lot on my mind, sometimes I’m still working and then there are just those times when nothing you do will put you in a happy place.
But going to bed in a bad mood can actually be SO bad for your mental health. If you get into bed in a grump, the chances of you waking up in the morning in a state of bliss is incredibly unlikely. Chances are you’ll actually wake from a bad night’s sleep in a messy-ish room that you all of a sudden hate, with a headache cause you ground your teeth too much and all the same stresses on you that you felt as you closed your eyes the night before.
Going to bed in a good mood however can make the world of difference. Finding something to be positive about before you go to sleep or spending time in an environment that makes you happy can seriously alter not just how you sleep but how you feel when you wake up in the morning. When I go to bed in a good mood I notice the difference almost immediately when I wake up; I don’t snooze my alarm a million times and I pretty much jump out of bed actually excited for the day.
But how do we do that? Surely, if it was that simple, then we’d all just do it right? Well, kind of. It does take a bit of work, but, since my teeth grinding got to the point where it kept Alex awake at night, I’ve had to explore my options to find things that will put me into a good mood before I go to sleep. Here are some of the things that I have come up with:
Make your god-damned bed.
(Lots of cushion inspo at the bottom of this piece)
Even if you didn’t get around to making it this morning, make the thing before you get into it. I KNOW it seems counterintuitive but trust me, this will make the world of difference. Getting into an unmade, as my mother would call it, ‘sordid’ bed just puts you into a sloppy state of mind. I know it looks glam as hell in the movies with all those crisp white sheets but in real life there isn’t much better than getting into a bed that you are proud to call your own. It only take a couple of weeks for something to become a habit so start now and by this time next month you’ll be pleased as punch with your bedroom. Trust me, it helps.
I don’t care what it is, but always make sure that there is a book next to your bed. I’m currently reading Emma Gannon’s Ctrl Alt Delete and I am LOVING it. I’m only really being able to do a couple of pages a night at the moment but it doesn’t matter, it’s SO much better for me than scrolling through Instagram and it’s so nice to have a bit of a routine when I get into bed. Sure I won’t get around to it every night but as long as your book is on your bedside table you will start seeing it as an option more and more often and it will really help you to switch off.
Find a little bit of positivity.
I suppose, if you really wanted to you could do this on Instagram but I’m old school so I do it with The Little Book Of Positivity that stays next to my bed. I don’t do it every night but whenever I feel that I need a bit of a pick me up I open this book and read a quote or story that will cheer me up, make me laugh or actually, just give me a boost of positivity. This was a great present that I got from one of my friends a few years ago and it’s probably one of the things I use the most in the world. Keeping a source of inspiration next to you in bed is so useful.
Look back at your day.
I always thought, if I’m honest, that this was horse shit. If I’d had a bad day the last thing that I would want to do would be to look back on it BUT recently I’ve started keeping a diary of sorts and it is changed everything. So now every day I write out the date into my diary and describe the day in one sentence. Sometimes it’s literally “lost my glasses in the park, spent two hours looking for them” (last Friday) and then sometimes it’s “had the best meeting of my life with my publishers and am so excited for my career right now” (last Wednesday). Even if it’s been a really boring day finding one thing that was noteworthy or memorable has really helped me to look back at my day with a much nicer outlook on things.
Get it smelling like a candle factory.
Tell me this, is there anything worse than getting into a bedroom that just smells of sleep? You know the smell, and you know that it’s minging. I’m a really big ‘smeller’, as in, nothing makes me happier than a house that smells delicious. I’m candle and diffuser obsessed and think it is very good for your mind to be somewhere that smells great. The bedroom should be the room where this applies the most. My White Company diffuser (highly recommended) makes the room smell ah-mazing all the time but when I know I really need to de-stress I’ll go up to my room and light my candles before going back downstairs to do my teeth, wash my face etc. That means when I get back into my room it is candle-lit and smelling heavenly and to be honest it works fairly well every time.
Back away from your phone.
What do they say about practising what you preach? I’m the WORST for this BUT I have noticed a huge change in my mood and sleep patterns when I spend a bit of time away from my phone when I get into bed. Although it took a lot for me to do it, being a blogger I would argue that everything that happened on my phone was work, I realised that actually nothing that was coming in at 10pm at night was urgent, nor was it going anywhere. I would therefore leave it until the morning and actually spend a bit of time doing the things that help put me in a better mood. (Reading, spending time with Alex, cuddling Bua etc.). If you’re really struggling with this one then plug it in at the other side of the room and remember what I said about habits, after a couple of weeks you’ll be so used to not being on it and you’ll sleep so much better.
Take care of yourself.
I know you think that sleep is the answer, and it very often is, but you need to remember that there is a connection between the mood that you go to bed in and the state that you are in when you wake up. If you can actively remember this when you get into bed then your mind might surprise you and you can work together to ensure that you get into a good place before drifting off. Taking a bath, watching a movie or doing a face mask are all great options and it’s really just about doing the best for you. Be aware of your mind though and remember, where you can, to think positive thoughts.
Nothing is greater to me than waking up in a good mood, excited for the day and I know for a fact that it is all connected with the state that I am in when I go to bed. I would not be surprised if it was exactly the same story for you. So here are some of the things that I do when I get into bed that help get me ready for a better and brighter day tomorrow.
I’d love to hear what you do, let me know in the comments! xxx