#MAYBEHEDOESNTHITYOU SHINES A LIGHT ON AN AREA OF DOMESTIC ABUSE THAT WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT

For the last week #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou, the # started by Zahira Kelly has been used as a platform for those who have either been abused, or witnessed the abuse of friends or family members, to share their stories and shine a light on the fact that domestic abuse is not, as often thought, just limited to physical violence.

Instead these women are speaking out about the much less talked about form of assault: emotional abuse.

Since it's beginning, the topic has seen thousands of women and some men, speaking up to share their experiences and try to raise awareness for this form of domestic abuse. 

Although she never thought that it would go viral, (we're so pleased that it has BTW), Zahira Kelly, the woman behind it all, told BBC Trending: "Abuse is often seen as very cut-and-dry and only physical" so she started the hashtag with the idea that it would enable people to "suss out the damaging situations"

Often victims of emotional abuse don't even realise that they are, as it can happen so gradually and so subtly, that they don't notice a shift, or even really acknowledge that what is happening to them is wrong, and if they do, they feel afraid to speak out against it. 

But now, survivors of domestic abuse have come together on Twitter to share their experiences and we hope, give courage and inspiration to someone who is perhaps still being abused, to find the strength to leave that relationship.

The Chief Executive of Women's Aid, told the Huffington Post UK that “the hashtag is a powerful reminder that domestic abuse is not just physical... Coercive control, financial abuse and emotional abuse are all part of domestic abuse - in fact, physical violence often comes later on in an abusive relationship.

Counsellor Amanda Perl has also talked with BBC Trending about spotting the five signs that you are in an abusive relationship, from acting differently around other people so that they think he is great, to mocking you, not acknowledging your point of view, using things that you have said against you and trying to make you jealous. To see more about it please read the article here.

If you think that you are being domestically abused and you don't know where to turn, you can get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Helpline here.

This is something that we, as a nation, need to get talking about and fast, it's simply not good enough that this sort of abuse is being kept in the shadows, it's high time that the issue was brought out into the light for us, as a society, to eliminate.